To Have and Have Not

Image result for do what you can with what you have where you areLike everybody, I deal with bouts of anxiety. Sometimes I know what’s causing it. Sometimes, I don’t.

Frankly, it’s annoying. It’s pretty generalized. I feel hypersensitive to everything. It can manifest itself physically. You know those awesome facial tics? I know I’m stressed when they make an appearance.

There are triggers. Worrying about people I love. Going back to work after summer break. Doing enough to ensure my health and wellness as I get older. Building Happy Fix into what I want it to be. The things I am anxious about are all over the map.

We all deal with anxiety in our own way. For some, it can be debilitating. For others, like me, it just gets in the way periodically and I deal with it on an as-need basis.

The thing I struggle with most is acceptance. Acceptance that we are not always going to be happy. That we struggle sometimes and it’s not pleasant. That we don’t have the control we would like to have in life.

When I ran across this quote this morning (I had to Google it because it didn’t sound like T-Roos but it was legit) it really hit home.

Do what you can with what you have where you are.

You are always dealing with the present. You can’t change the past. And the future hasn’t happened yet.

For me, I know that there are some things I’m anxious about that I can change and some things I can’t. And worry changes absolutely none of it. Action does.

I know that’s not how it is for some. They are consumed with anxiety which results in panic attacks and really impacts their lives negatively. When it’s that bad, sometimes you have to reach outside of your circle to get the help you need to get where you want to be.

The lesson here is to deal with the things you can deal with, logically and where you are in life. If you can’t, reach out.

For me, my anxiety is manageable. I go back to work on Thursday and I love what I do. The unknown will become known. The hugs will be epic. And I will do the best job I know how to do for my students and colleagues.

I’ll get enough rest, exercise and eat well to keep my energy levels up and my anxiety down. I’ll write in my gratitude journal as a reminder of all that’s good right now.

And I’ll connect with people I love who always, always, always help show me that everything is just where it should be and who give me the confidence I need to take the action necessary to build the life I want to lead.

Honestly, just writing this has made me feel better. What do you do? How do you deal with your anxiety when it creeps in? Do you have go-to practices that help? If it’s comfortable, share with us. Lord knows we can use all of the help we can get in dealing with that thing that robs us of the joy and peace we have earned.