Balance, the Bane of Existence

Stacy Menzies Happy FixWe are told continually to find balance. Balance between work and family. Balance between saving for a rainy day and enjoying the fruits of our labor. Balance between a healthy weight and not depriving ourselves. Balance between stillness and action. Just thinking about it can be frustrating and exhausting, requiring you to find yet more balance about balance.

Last Thursday I started spring break. Almost three weeks of not setting an alarm and having a lot more time than I’m used to being both productive and relax. You know. Find the balance between those two ideas.

So far, I’ve been pretty successful. I finished a big people book (as a librarian I feel like that shouldn’t be considered an accomplishment but here we are) took care of some home business stuff and had some time with friends and my husband. I’ve walked on the beach and gotten household chores done. In the coming weeks, there will be more connection with people I love and more productivity working toward goals I’ve had for a long time.

Balance requires constant attention and action. Picture standing on one foot. There is constant motion and redistribution of energy to ensure that you don’t fall. Sometimes that redistribution is almost imperceptible but it’s always there. If it’s not, you fall.

Balance requires that even when you fall, you get back up and do it again ( I don’t think that you can technically balance by laying on the floor). Maybe you get some support. Maybe you try to go it alone. But you always get up.

Balance is tricky. Sometimes in order to balance, you need to give more weight to one side than another. There’s no formula for it. You really have to listen to yourself to figure out what it is you and those around you need and do that. Balance is based on you. You get to decide what that looks like for you and make it work.

What you need to remember is that we are all hanging out on our individual see-saw of life. Sometimes we’re up. Sometimes we are down. But sometimes we are in perfect balance. How can you create that in your own life?