Building Your Chosen Family

Stacy Menzies Happy FixLast night friends of ours came to the house from where they live, a few hours away. They just wanted to stay overnight, hit the beach in the morning and head home later in the day.

They can do that. These friends have known us since college. Our families have been through a lot together. Family crisis, natural disasters. When Hurricane Florence hit last September and we had to evacuate from the place we originally evacuated to (long story), we called these friends from the road, with our dogs and they insisted that we stay with them. We were there for a week. They never once made us feel like we were anything less than members of their family.

When we bought the house, we made them a key to it so they could come and go as they please. That’s the kind of friends they are. We love them. We trust them. We are grateful for their friendship.

I am incredibly blessed to have friends like this in my life. Friends who are there at a moment’s notice. Friends who give to as much as they get out of our relationship, but ironically, never keep score.

I am doubly incredibly blessed with a family who does the same. A family, who if I hadn’t been blessed enough to be born into, I would have chosen to be among my best friends.

We all need to feel connected in life. It’s one of those things that make us feel grounded, safe and that brings us happiness. People who you can laugh and cry with. People who will drop what they are doing to come and help you and people for whom you do would do the same.

Connection to others, friends or family is just part of who we are. Maybe it’s part of our human DNA. Maybe we just enjoy different perspectives or the comfort of others. Regardless, we all need it.

It’s almost the weekend. Take some time to think about who your people are. See if you can spend some time strengthening those bonds. Get together or coffee, a drink or a walk in the park. Maybe a phone call or even a quick text to say I’m thinking about you and I love you. Send a card to somebody through snail mail. In this age of technology, that may really blow their mind. Whatever it is that can strengthen the connection, do that.

Relationships, like everything else we value, must be nurtured and not taken for granted. I’m not as good as I need to be with this. Maybe that’s why I write every day; to remind myself to do what I know I need to do and to connect with people every day. Thank you for allowing me the space to do that.