I heard a story yesterday about how ducks have no memory. I know what you’re thinking. Or maybe not. Maybe you’re a duck.
It’s a blessing and a curse. Having no memory means that you forget the good and the bad experiences you’ve had. You forget the resentment, slights, and grief, but you forget the joy, laughter, and connection with others too.
As humans, we don’t have that problem. Sometimes we remember all too well the good and the bad.
It’s really easy to obsess on why things happened the way they did. A deal fell through. A friend or loved one may have hurt you. Something didn’t go the way you were sure it was going to go, even though you did everything to make it so.
You’re not alone. Everybody does it. There is some value to figuring out why something happened the way it did to see if you can fix the issue. But here’s the thing–most of the time, it’s not you. You have no control over how others act or react in certain situations. None. Obsessing about it won’t change that.
If you look things over and know, truly know that you did something wrong, say you’re sorry and figure out how to fix that. ‘
But once you’ve done a once over and come to the realization that the ball is or was in the other person’s court, let it go.
I know that can be hard. We ruminate on things. We replay it over and over. But at what cost? At the end of the day, the situation is still the same and we’ve lost the peace and comfort we could have had and shared with others.
Today, be a duck. Don’t dwell on negativity or obsess over things that didn’t turn out the way you wanted them to.
Shake the water off of your wings and find contentment where you can. Allow yourself the grace of letting go of those things you can’t change so you can concentrate on what you have control over. You.