When I was younger, we moved around a lot. It was an amazing adventure! I got to see areas of the country I might never have seen. I got to experience different cultures and ways of doing things. It made my already close family really tight.
By the time I got to high school, my parents made a sacrifice and decided that we would stay put so I could find a little stability and begin to grow some roots.
Until that time, I’m not sure I realized the importance of friends.
I had some friends from childhood. My parents had friends from forever ago. But there were several years where I had acquaintances to fill time while we waited for the next move.
I kept those vital connections at arm’s length because I knew there was a good-bye in the offing.
Once we moved and stayed, it took me a bit to get my footing. but I have been blessed with friends who I love and with whom I have grown into adulthood.
I was reminded of the importance of those friendships last week. On Thursday I had a 3-hour lunch with a friend who I met on the first day of school when I was in 8th grade.
This weekend my husband and I traveled to DC to spend time with friends from college and in the ensuing years after college. You know, that time when you are kind of surprised you didn’t die or at least get jailed because of your shenanigans?
Talking with these women and men, who are all such a big part of my development reminded me of how important these connections are in our lives. For support. For love. For a kick in the pants when we need it.
These are the people who I may not have contact with for years but, when we get together, it’s like we still live in the same town.
That said, I need to be better.
I need to be better about reaching out to nurture these relationships. I need to call or text more frequently to let people know I love them. I miss them and I want to see them.
I need to take time out of my schedule and make that connection as important as any of the other things I do in my self-care routines. Because they are that important.
I’ve been lucky. My friends are forgiving of my foibles. They love me uncondtionally. I’m not sure how much I’ve ever appreciated that. But I do now.
It’s time to act. It’s time to reach out on the reg even if it’s just to say I love you and you are important to me. I owe them that. I owe myself that.
I am lucky to be blessed on the friend and family front. And while I know that everyone will be in my life for the duration, I need to let them know how much that means to me. So today? Send that note. Make that call. Send a text. Reach out, connect, and let them know how much you love them. It’s important for those friendships that last longer than forever.