How to Deal with Change

Happy Fix Personal Wellness How to Deal with Change Stacy MenziesThe thing I love most about spring is that it is a time of rebirth.  Buds form on trees.  Leaves grow.  Flowers break through the earth and grow towards the sun.  Baby goslings are all around my town, with their proud parents watching their every move.  Baby bunnies hop through my yard.

I feel renewed during spring.  It’s a good time to reflect on where I am, where I want to go and what I need to do to get there.

This spring, we’ve got a lot of changes.  Our oldest son is starting his career in the military and our youngest son is working in a new job while he pursues his career.  We have moved to our dream home at the beach and are getting accustomed to a whole new community.  It’s a lot.  While we welcome the growth that change brings, I’d be lying if I said that change is stress-free.

How do you deal with a lot of change at once?

  1.  Keep change in perspective–In our case, the changes are good changes.  Our son has a job after graduation.  Our youngest son has had successes in following his dream and is confident he is on the right road.  The house is coming along beautifully.  All of the changes we are going through are manageable and welcome.
  2. Figure out how to de-stress–What can you do when you feel your anxiety levels rising?  How do you get your mind off of what is stressing you out?  I know if I hit the gym when I get stressed, I love the way I feel after a good workout. Some people like to meditate or read.  Distracting yourself from the anxiety in a healthy way gives your brain the mini-vacation it needs to rest and rejuvenate.  You have to figure out what works for you.
  3. Take Action–Another way to deal with change is to meet it head on.  Assess the change that is occurring and figure out what action you need to take to help move it in the direction you want it to go.  Even if you only take one small action, that’s a step in the right direction.
  4. Be Kind to Yourself–When you are going through changes, it’s easy to be hard on yourself.  When things don’t come together as quickly as planned, we all engage in negative self-talk.  Things like “That was stupid.  Why did you do that?” or “You’re not strong enough to do this.”  Don’t take the bait.  Change the conversation.  Your brain is hard-wired for survival.  Change can trigger fear and cause you to doubt what you are doing.  Take care that you are doing what you know you need to do and don’t let your fear get in the way.

In the words of somebody smarter than I, the only thing constant in life is change.  Even good change comes with some anxiety.  Regardless of whether the change is good or bad, it all comes with an opportunity to grow.  It’s all in how you manage it.  Trust yourself and know that you have the strength and courage to weather any changes on your horizon.

Stacy Menzies is Chief Happbassador at Happy Fix, Inc.