Is Less Connection Better?

Image may contain: sky, cloud, text, outdoor and natureI was reminded of all of the busy-ness of life when I switched out my phone yesterday. I was due for an upgrade.

Not having done this in a while, I took everything off of my phone. Until that moment, I never realized how much of my life existed on that little rectangle in my pocketbook. Banking. Pictures. Connections with others. My musical predilections. Meal plans. Calendars. So much information about me and about others.

What was life like when we didn’t carry around these instant connections in our pockets? When we were not alerted every time a celebrity tweeted or a cat swung from a ceiling fan? I’m not sure I remember.

Don’t get me wrong. I appreciate the connection it gives me to family and friends.

Not crazy about the incredibly tempting distractions, though.

The new phone is nice. It has a super fancy camera on it and came preloaded with all kinds of games and apps. You know. Distractions.

I got sucked in.

I spent time yesterday and today playing with it. And then I realized that nothing I was doing on this contraption was anything that was going to help me. So I deleted a lot of it. I found stuff that could help me simplify my life and moved on.

I didn’t stop there. I went into FB and removed myself from a ton of groups. Most of them I joined to keep an eye on things that were of interest to or concerned my boyos. They didn’t ask me to join these groups. I did it, probably as kind of a connection and to be in the “know” about things they were interested in or concerned about and in a weird attempt to help them if they needed it.

All having access to that information did was make me anxious about stuff I have no control over.

Information is important but you have to ask yourself two things:

1. Is this information accurate?
2. Can I do anything tangible with this information that will have a positive impact on me, the people I love or my community?

I talk a lot about the fact that we only have control over ourselves and our actions. Today, I took some of that control back.

It’s simple.

You can start with your phone.

Delete any apps that are time sucks. You know what they are. Honor your time (it’s one of your most precious resources) enough to only have apps that help you in whatever way that looks like for you.

Set your notifications for people that matter to you. That does not include anyone named Kardashian, Trump or Pelosi. Unless your name is Kardashian, Trump or Pelosi.

If you get robocalls, solicitations, etc. via phone, block them. Okay, this one is easier said than done. Those bots are pretty tricky but I get some sense of satisfaction knowing there is at least one number that can’t access me.

Turn your phone off. I know. This is heretical and there are times when you must have it on. But you know as well as I do if you are with the people you need to hear from, there’s no need to have your phone on.

Simplify. Cut the overwhelm. Clear a space for quiet. You may be pleasantly surprised by what you hear.