Every once in awhile, I need a reminder of why I do what I do. With information coming to us from multiple sources and with so much uncertainty, it’s easy to lose yourself along the way.
I’d be lying if I said I was feeling super confident in all aspects of my life. My life at home is great but I worry about my family and friends who I don’t see every day. Connection is harder lately; some due to physical and some due to emotional distancing. And, as an educator, my worry jar is full to overflowing. From what the school year will look like to the safety of my students to whether or not my job will become obsolete, it seems my brain is always full.
If you look back at the last paragraph, you’ll note a common thread. I cannot control any of the things I’ve listed. They are completely and wholly on somebody else’s plate.
Declaring Your Independence
This weekend I had to take a step back. I always look at Independence Day as a day to free myself from things that are not serving me or the people around me. What do I need to be independent of? What are the things standing in the way of becoming the person I want to be? And how do I get on the Production Train so I can leave Anxiety Station?
I reviewed a “planning document” I created for Happy Fix last year to get a handle on how to move forward through all of this uncertainty. To a place where I could be at peace and productive. I called this (humbly) The Happy Fix Manifesto and there’s a very real chance I’ve posted it before. Now, I am revisiting it for my own sanity.
When I typed out this stream of consciousness, I was trying to capture the essence of what I want Happy Fix to be. Because, while I take you into consideration when I write, most of it is for me. Think of it as cheap therapy. This is what I wrote.
My “Why” for Happy Fix:
Happy Fix will be a source of education and inspiration for people who want to use the power within them to create a life that they love and be a model for others to follow. This is the way we will change the world.
Lofty? Maybe but completely doable.
If We Believe This It Will Come
I came up with a list of demands. Don’t be intimidated. The demands are only for those who are willing participants. Happbassadors if you will. Here they are:
- We believe that everyone has the power to build the life they want.
- Self-Care is a non-negotiable part of that.
- It’s not just okay but it’s necessary to ask for help when we need it.
- We must be brave. Being brave is doing what needs to be done even though it scares the Hell out of you.
- Focus on Progress, not Perfection
- Support and Connection are crucial to our success
- Success looks different to everyone. We do not compare our lives to others. We determine what’s important
- We use our strengths to help others.
- We don’t beat ourselves up over mistakes, past, present, or future and forgive freely and often.
- We treat ourselves with the love and compassion we treat everyone else in our lives.
- We make ourselves vulnerable when needed because it’s by taking risks that we move forward.
- We all have unique gifts that should be shared with the world. We get to choose what to share and how to share it.
- We know the world is a better place because we are in it.
- The only person we can control is ourselves and our reaction to external events.
- There is no failure. There are opportunities to learn from things that didn’t go as planned and to move forward.
- We take action toward the goals we have.
- If we are clear on what we want, the how to’s will follow.
Syntax and Grammar
This was written in the third person because it’s not a one-woman operation. I am tired of seeing the world set on fire while people either fan it or sit back and roast marshmallows. I want to make a difference for my children, my grandchildren, and my students.
But I can’t do it alone.
We all have incredibly unique gifts, strengths, and things we are passionate about. What if we shared that with people around us? And what if they joined and spread it to people they know. It’s like that Faberge Shampoo Commercial from the 1970s. I told two friends about it and they told two friends and so on.
Most people want to make the world a better place. We can agree on that goal. We just differ on how to get there. But as long as what we want comes from a place of love and strength, it must be good. When what we want comes from a place of fear and anger, the result will reflect those same emotions. A mirror.
Today, all you need to do is get clear on what you want your contribution to be. Maybe it’s big and global. Maybe it’s small but personal. Either way, you’ve got to do more than just want it. Believe that you can do it because if we all put our love, strength, and belief together, we can absolutely change the direction that this world is going in. And if you need a mantra, you’ve got the 17 above to start your journey.