Lesson 2–Who Gets to Hang Out with Your Magical Self?

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“Surround yourself with people whose eyes light up when they see you coming.’

In part of his acceptance speech, Andre De Shields who won Best Supporting Actor in a Musical gave three pieces of life advice. This was the piece he started with

“Surround yourself with people whose eyes light up when they see you coming.”

What does that mean?

People who are genuinely happy to see you.

People who are overcome with peace and calm when you walk into a room.

People who see you for who you are and think you are amazing.

People who miss you when you are not there.

“Surround yourself with people whose eyes light up when they see you coming.”

Speech 237 in my parenting book was to always have friends that elevate you. Make you better. And you, in turn, need to do the same for those around you.

We all have our days where we may not be at 100%. It’s normal. But when you have people in your sphere who do not treat you with the love and respect that you have earned, whose eyes don’t light up when they see you, it’s time to reassess that relationship.

Relationships are tricky. Many think that each spouse, partner, friend, etc. gives 50% to it and all will be well. Not true.

Each member of that relationship needs to give 100% or it doesn’t work.

I am so blessed to have a job where my kids, colleagues, and admin are happy to see me each morning. I come home to an amazing husband who throws open the door and grabs my bags. I have two dogs who think I go off to war every morning and greet me like a conquering hero when I come home. I have friends and neighbors who I love and who love me back. And I have family who, when we are finally together after time apart? Well, let’s just say you would be blinded by all of the light emitting from our individual eye sockets.

I don’t know whether I chose well or whether I was chosen well. What I do know is that what I experience every day is what everybody deserves. You make those around you better. They make you better. If that’s not how it is, you may need to have a conversation with that someone. Hard truth–if it can’t be fixed, maybe the relationship needs to be severed.

Take a look around you. Have you surrounded yourself with the people that deserve to have you in their lives? Do their eyes light up when they see you? Do your eyes light up when you see them? You deserve brilliant relationships. Keep the sunglasses and sunscreen at the ready, my friends. You’re going to need them.