Lessons from the Tony Awards-Part 1

For the first time in years, I watched the Tony Awards.

Mostly because a friend’s boyfriend is the drummer for Ain’t Too Proud which was up for 12 Tonys.

I love live theater. I marvel at the talent on stage. The vocals. The acting abilities. Dancing. The instruments. And I wonder what it took for some of those folks to get where they are.

I have a son in NYC. He’s an actor and is working toward that goal. Let me tell you, it ain’t easy.

As I was watching the show, Andre De Shields, a 73-year old African American from Baltimore accepted the award for Best Featured Actor in a Musical, (Hadestown). In his acceptance speech, he gave three ideas that have governed his life.

I’m sure I’ll refer to the other two in weeks to come but today I want to concentrate on this one:

“Slowly is the fastest way to where you want to be.”

At the time, I was writing ideas in a notebook about Happy Fix. This ended up in the notebook.

I am not the most patient person on the planet, God knows. When I get something in my head, I want it to happen right away.

I wanted Happy Fix to take off the second people heard about it.

But that’s not life.

Sometimes there are lessons you need to learn before what you want comes to fruition. Experiences you need to have to better sustain what it is you want. Sometimes there are people who can help you who have not come into your life or connected with you yet. Sometimes there are skills that will help you navigate that thing you want so badly, better. And, let’s face it, you may not be ready for it, Yet.

I’ve had Happy Fix for the better part of 7 years. There have been many iterations but only in the last few months, have I started to see, clearly what I would like it to be.

The actors on Broadway bring with them life experiences. For many, they were the ones whose dream would not let go of them. They struggled. They auditioned. They suffered constant rejection but they stayed. They kept auditioning. They kept struggling. They kept dreaming. And then, their break.

If it was fast and easy, everybody would do it. But it’s not. And they don’t.

Slowly is the fastest way to where you want to be. Why?

Because it shows commitment. Because it allows you the opportunity to make and fix mistakes. Because you learn about yourself and your dream. Because you are more likely to know that this is what you want when you take your time to get there.

Frustration. Disappointment. Hard work. Mistakes. All part of the process of building something worth having forever. Don’t cheat yourself by going fast. Slow down. Enjoy the journey and know you’ll get there when you get there. And it will be glorious.