Sad news from the Happy Fix front. I lost a “like.”
Facebook happily reminds me every time I log onto my page of how many “likes” I have. In fact, it tells me how many shares, likes on posts, countries people are from, etc.
It’s kind of creepy.
I’m not going to lie, the “unlike” made me feel kind of bad. It made me doubt myself, just a little.
Had I said something that someone didn’t like? Did I repeat a post? Too many grammatical errors? Writing style?
I would love to say that I am so together that I don’t care about these things. I write what’s on my heart and damn the torpedos.
But I do care. And I probably shouldn’t.
The logical part of me knows the “likes” are Facebook’s way to keep you motivated to provide content (whether it’s a post, a share, an image) that keeps them going. You keep coming back and others coming back, which keeps advertisers happy.
There is, though a broader issue that impacts all of us. The incessant need for validation of our thoughts, our actions and in general, who we are as human beings.
I’ve often thought to myself, how much could we get done if we truly, deeply didn’t give a flip about what people thought about us?
Think about that. If we honestly didn’t care about what people think, say, or do about us? If we were free to try the things we want to try. To innovate. To practice. To be our authentic selves without fear of recrimination or rejection? What if?
One of the reasons I love working where I do is that we are allowed to try things. Sure we have certain things we have to do but we are allowed to innovate as long as it’s in the best interests of the kiddos we serve. If it works, great. And if it doesn’t, you reflect and fix it. If you need help, all you have to do is ask.
That’s the environment we should all work and live in.
I know it’s harder than just making a decision and moving on it. It takes practice. It takes being mindful and tuning out the negativity. It takes knowing and owning your worth.
But it taps into your true gifts and allows you to share them with the people who need it. And that, my friends, is what we were all put on this earth to do.
You don’t need outside validation or a “like” to know what you are doing is true and right. The joy is in the doing. You can’t show that shining treasure within you if you are constantly hiding it in the treasure chest, afraid of the judgment of others. Bring it out. Dust it off and let us all marvel at it!