Rise Above the Comparison Trap

Stacy Menzies Happy FixI’m standing in the checkout line waiting for the clerk and like all well-informed citizens, read the headlines of the checkout magazines.

I take the headlines with a grain of salt. Mostly when I read them, I wonder how it would feel to have your life exposed to everyone who grocery shops. You know, most of us.

One of the headlines (and it must be true because it was on the cover of In Touch Magazine 🤔) was about Prince William cheating on Princess Kate. I saw a different article from the Daily Beast. Same main idea.

This post isn’t about the merits of either article. Only the people involved know what took place and what didn’t. But it did force me to look back and think about how I look at others lives.

I have looked at the royal family and wondered what it must be like to never have to worry about money, or live in a castle, or travel the world in the most luxurious of accommodations. To know that your every need will be taken care of. At all times. By people whose job it is to make sure you are happy.

We do this every day. On Facebook. On Instagram. On Twitter or Pinterest. Or, in my case in the checkout line in a grocery store.

Everybody has it better. They take better vacations. They spend all of their time in loving congregation with their family. They have the most beautiful children/dogs/cats. They accomplish more than I will ever dream of. Their marriage is happier. They live in a better house.

Wanna know a secret? It’s not always that way. I don’t know many people who Insta themselves when they sit down to pay bills at the end of the month. Or when the meal they spent all day on is an epic fail (although Pinterest Fails is one of the funniest things you will find on the web and I can totally relate). Or when they are in a parent-teacher conference and find out that their kid is not the math genius they thought. Or when they are in a knockdown drag-out fight with their spouse.

We only post the good stuff. Why? Because that’s what we want to share. I don’t think people do it to make others feel bad but, more accurately, posting the good stuff makes you happy.

It’s incumbent upon us not to judge others lives against our own. You don’t know what struggles they are going through and maybe posting the good stuff provides an archive that they can go to when things get tough.

By the same token, don’t judge your own lives by what or how you think others are living. You don’t have nor will you ever have the information needed to make such an assessment.

While they arguably live a monetarily richer life than most, even a Prince Charming and his Princess have issues. 

They are spouses, parents, leaders in their fields. Trouble comes with the territory.

Your life is your life. You own it. And if you decide you want to compare, make sure that you are doing an apples and apples comparison. You are not others. They are not you. And that’s what makes this world as fabulous as it is. Measure accordingly. #HappyFix #SelfCare