We’ve known for a while that our son is going to be far away from us for longer than any of us would like. We have the date. We have an idea of where. And we can’t talk about it in certain arenas because of safety concerns.
It’s for a reason. Some would say good. Some would not agree.
None of that matters to me. Or his dad. Or his brother. Or most importantly, his wife.
The only thing that matters to any one of us is that he returns whole and healthy in mind, body, and spirit. That’s it. That’s all we ask.
It’s one of the things none of us has any control over.
I’ve been bold in asking everybody I know and even people I don’t know for prayers and positive thoughts. It’s hard for me. I don’t like to ask for help. But I love my son more than my pride.
I’m a believer. In God. In positive energy. In focusing everything I have on what matters to me. To live a life that is full and meaningful and productive and to want the same for my people.
I pray daily for the people I love. For my students, colleagues, and administration. And if I think you need the support, even if you haven’t asked for it, I pray for you too. And I always try to stay in a positive frame of mind.
I do it because, sometimes, that’s the only thing I can do to help in a situation. I acknowledge that there are things completely beyond my control. And while I can’t always personally affect needed change, I know there is a Higher Power who is listening and can make a difference. I know that my prayers and thoughts do not fall on deaf ears.
Thoughts and prayers have gotten a really bad rap over the years. There are people who are so frustrated with the world (and rightfully so) they think that it’s a glib, overused phrase that lets people off the hook. And when it’s used by people who can actually make a difference, I get it. If you think and pray you don’t have to do anything else.
In a complex world, though, when you are just a normal person, sometimes that’s all you can think to say or do.
So at my core, I’m good with thoughts and prayers. I know that people are giving what they can.
And if I’m being honest, I believe that even if it’s one brief nano-second that somebody genuinely puts their focus on you, your loved one, world leaders, our military, doctors and nurses or whomever else they are praying for, collectively it can make a difference.
It certainly can’t do any harm.
As an added benefit, positive thinking, prayer, and meditation all help calm the mind of the person offering the thoughts and prayers. Over the years it has helped me immensely. And, honestly, I need it now.
I told people at work about our situation on Friday. Several came to me today to let me know they thought about my family all weekend and that they have added my son to their prayer lists. They made the effort to let me and my family know we matter to them and their families.
Just that small gesture feels huge to my family and we are grateful.
In my heart, I wish we were not in a place in society where an act of positivity can be perceived as a slight. I understand, but I wish it were different.
In the end, we can all argue how we got here but, honestly, it doesn’t matter. The only thing, in a lot of these instances, we have control over is how we react and move forward. At this stage of the game, I will take everything at face value and assume the best. It’s the only choice I have.
How about you? Will you assume the best? Will you allow yourself to ask for help if you need it? And will you give it if you asked for it? This world needs a lot of light right now. And I know if you are reading this, you will shine brightly.