What is Your What?

Stacy Menzies Happy FixOnce upon a time, there was a girl who hated her job (side note, I’m the girl but it’s not my current job. I love the one I currently have). She hoped and prayed that one day she would find a job she would love.

She did what everybody does. She scoured the want ads. She sent in resumes. Her cover letter was professional and engaging.

Finally, she was called in for interviews for two entirely different jobs. One was a really lucrative sales position where she and her family would be set financially for life. One was for a management position in a company she left a year earlier.

She nailed all of the interviews and sat back to wait, knowing that she would have a very hard decision about which job to take.

The decision was made for her. She did not get offered either job. In both cases, she was told, she was a very strong candidate, but there was somebody who had a little bit of an edge over her.

She was devastated but continued to get up every morning. Now, though, her prayers were different. Instead of praying for a specific job, she gave up control. She just wanted a new job. Something challenging that paid a decent amount of money. Something that she could use all of the skills she’d developed over the years. One where she would work with people she liked.

Once she decided WHAT she wanted, gave up control of HOW it happened and had faith that things would work out for the best, everything fell into place.

She had a chance meeting with somebody who liked her enough to interview for a job that, on paper, she did not look like she was qualified for. He hired a mentor to help her navigate that first year and teach her what she needed to know. It was the best job with the best boss and the best colleagues she could have imagined. In fact, it was better than she could have imagined.

It’s hard to sit on the sidelines and wait when you want something so badly. Maybe it’s a job. Maybe it’s a move. Maybe it has more to do with a friend or family member.

While I’m a huge advocate of action, I’m not one of trying to control things, simply because you can’t. In any given challenge, you have multiple players, actions, reactions, etc. The only player, action, and reaction you can control is you.

I know I’ve said this before; find clarity around your goals. What is it you really want? Why do you want it? What will it look like when you get it?

Find out what it is you want. Release the specifics of how it has to happen. Take action to put you in the best place to make your what come about. Have faith that it will and watch the magic. That’s it. Easy peasy.

The job story is true. It was one of the most mind-blowing experiences I’ve ever had but I trusted the process and it worked out. What is your what? What are you working toward? Whatever it is, keep at it but stay open. That’s where the magic happens. #HappyFix #SelfCare