Why Do We Hold on to Things We Don’t Like?

Image may contain: ocean, sky, cloud, text, outdoor, nature and waterI had a front porch sittin’ conversation with my husband over coffee yesterday. We were talking about what he wants to be when he grows up.
 
For the last ten years, he’s been a Public Relations Consultant. He helps small businesses and people get seen. Problem was, once he got them the press they needed and the business they wanted, they didn’t need his services anymore. He literally worked himself out of a job.
 
Owning a business is hard and while there is flexibility, isn’t really where his heart is. My husband is a really, really good writer. Fiction, non-fiction, articles for publication. You name it. He can write it. And do it well.
 
As luck would have it, he was offered a job writing and editing for several local publications and he loves it. But there’s always this nagging feeling. Should he continue to do the PR stuff? Should he go after more work in that venue?
 
Here’s the thing. He doesn’t love PR. He loves the writing aspect of it and does it well but he doesn’t love PR.
 
When you spend time and effort on something you don’t love, whether it’s a job, a relationship, a hobby or anything, you take space away from what you do love or want to explore to see if you grow to love.
 
You spend so much time chasing something you don’t really want you move farther away from that thing or the person you do want.
 
It doesn’t make much sense, does it?
 
That’s what we decided yesterday. Sometimes the hard part is giving that thing up. I don’t know why. When something is not serving you, it should be easy. 
 
My guess is that there is some comfort in the known. Even if the known kind of stinks.
 
Once you’ve given up that thing, you open space for the pursuit of what you want to do. This morning, my husband got up with me (super early) and worked on writing for himself. Not to get other people seen but to get himself seen for something he loves doing.
 
Is there something in your life that is not working for you? Is it keeping you from pursuing what will bring you joy? You get to decide and take action.
 
Take the step. Make a break from those things that are not working for you. Ask for what you need and move forward. You won’t be sorry. And if you need support, advice or just an “Atta Gal/Boy” post below. We are with you!