Windows, Doors, and Flying High

Image result for release control quotesYesterday morning a mockingbird got into my sunporch. In its zeal to get out, it kept flinging itself against the screen.

We propped open the door and waited, thinking he (it had to be a he since he didn’t ask for directions out of the sunporch) would find his way out in a few minutes. No dice.

We put a bowl of water just outside the door thinking he may need a drink or to cool off. Nope.

We took a basil plant and put it just outside the door. Not sure if mockingbirds like basil but it was green and they like trees. He was not having it.

We ran through everything in our “Free the Mockingbird” arsenal to no avail.

He just kept flinging himself against the screen. Even though the door six inches below where he was perched was wide open.

Sometimes we know where we want to go in life. The career. The financial plan. The healthy body. The relationships.

But we get so tied into the “how” to get there that we keep flinging ourselves against the proverbial window when the door has been open all along. We just need to take a step back, see the opening and walk through it.


We don’t want to release control of the situation. We are comfortable in our discomfort.

We don’t want to expose ourselves to ridicule by not knowing how to get where we want to go.

We don’t want to ask for directions or help.

We waste precious time and energy staying put because we don’t want to make a mistake.

I do it. You do it. We all do it. The mockingbird did it.

And sometimes, when you are the bystander and you see the opening, you just have to take a step back and let things play out. That’s hard, especially when it’s somebody you love and care about.

I’m happy to report that after a couple of hours of inspecting the inside of my sun porch, the bird saw the opening and took it, freeing himself to fly as high as he wanted to.

We can all do that. Where we go is not determined by our genetics or our environment. It is not determined by the family we were born into nor is it limited by others.

It’s us. It’s our decisions. It’s the effort we are willing to put forth. The chances we are willing to take.

Life isn’t always fair. In fact, most of the time it’s not. But if you look, there’s always an opening to break out of your cage and fly high.

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